“…I don’t know you, but I love you all the more for that…”

DAY 3
Your idea of the perfect first date.

Here’s the thing about me and dating.

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I don’t date a lot.

I think there is something about me, some personality quirk that causes me to be labelled as ‘unapproachable’ by the male species. I think it has something to do with the way I freak out and stare at the floor instead of having a normal conversation. Or, maybe the way that I tend to over-compensate for my shyness by acting like a complete, certifiable, bi… erm… crazy person.

Yeah. I don’t get out much.

That’s not to say that I don’t have my own idea about the perfect first date. Just saying that I haven’t had much practice at them.

I’m trying to make this post less pathetic, I promise.

So, when I think about first dates, I can’t help but think about how sometimes they are 100% awkward. I mean, really. Obviously you are attracted to each other, because you are on a date. Someone asked. Someone accepted. That’s mutually assured attraction.

The problem is, once on the date, sometimes people can forget about that mutually assured attraction, and completely clam up. (Ahem… judge as you will. This blog is auto-biographical.) And that, boys and girls, is a sure-fire way to ruin a date. (And any chance at a future relationship.)

So, my idea of the perfect first date, is a date that will break both nervous, hormonal, and (let’s be honest) over-whelmed individuals out of their respective shells. And, since I consider myself a creative-type, the perfect date would include an opportunity to create something.

THE PERFECT FIRST DATE:

1. Dinner at an interesting restaurant. Somewhere that invites interesting conversation. My current personal favorites are: Malawi’s Pizza, Bombay House, Jasmine Thai, Happy Sumo, and La Jolla Groves.

2. Painting at Color Me Mine. Or some similar creative activity.

And then, if the date is really going well.

3. Dessert at a fun, and delicious dessert spot. (Might I recommend The Chocolate?) Get some Hot Cocoa, or some cookies, and enjoy the wrap-up to your date.

And that simple night is my recipe for a perfect first date.

Of course, if your date has no personality, or isn’t interested in creative projects, this date will not go well.

~*Post Title from “Falling Slowly” by Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova (Of The Frames fame)

Also, this song contains my most favorite lyrics:

“You have suffered enough, and warred with yourself, it’s time that you won.”

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